Monday, July 31, 2006

Coping with Depression

I went for a Dharma Talk last Friday at the Mahavihara Temple in Brickfields. Dr. Phang a Psychologist was the guest speaker. He talked about Depression and ways to cope with it. If you're suffering from Depression or think that you are, you're not alone. After his talk, it seems that the ratio for us to get depression is quite high. So you're not alone.

Signs and symptoms

  • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain
  • Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

These are some of the ways depressioners think (using Cognitive Models)

  1. Overgeneralization of things and events
  2. Castrophic Thinking - to project the worst of the future
  3. Dicothamus Thinking - black or white thinking, good or bad
  4. Personalization - finding fault with oneself, low self esteem
  5. Absolute Thinking - the MUST philosophy

Coping with Depression

The trick here is to identify these thoughts and replace it with happy ones.
The common trades of these types of thinking are finding fault, dissatisfaction and discontentment. Contentment is the greatest wealth next to health.

Dr. Phang had a good suggestion to help us deal with our depression. He has suggested that we keep a diary of our joys and happiness. It is good practice to write down our contentment as an exercise. I have tried it and it works wonders. Whenever you feel unhappy, sad, down or low take it and read it. It helps me reflect on my life and always makes me feel better with what I have accomplished so far in my life. No one is perfect and I’m not perfect but I must always give my very best.

Guidelines for Unconditional Contentment Exercise.

  1. To be grateful for the things that didn’t go wrong. Things that you have taken for grated e.g. our health. We should be thankful and grateful to be able to eat, sleep and eliminate without any major illness or problems. So we should treasure it.
  2. Be grateful for the things that went right. We should rejoice on our success, achievements and things that have gone right for us. We shouldn’t condemn and complain all the time. Be thankful and grateful.
  3. Be grateful for things that went wrong. All of us here learn most from mistake and hardship in our lives. We grow stronger and last longer in life. That’s how we grow to be a better person in whatever we do. Be it school, college, university, work, family and life.

Here’s a beautiful story that has touch my heart and I hope it touches you too.

The story of the Professor and the Butterflies.

This Professor studies butterflies and has over 100 observations done on process how butterflies come out of a cocoon. Conclusion of his study shows that to come out from the cocoon is a very difficult process. The butterflies would have to struggle to get their way out. To make it easier for the butterflies, the Professor has help to make a small cut of the opening of the cocoon so that they don’t have to struggle so hard and it’s easier to come out. But soon after the come out they fall of from their cocoon and die. Why?

The answer: A butterfly has to go thru this process, it has to squeeze thru to get the blood to flow to the wing and also to drain the fluid out from the wing so that once it comes out its wing is dry and it can fly. It is very necessary for it survival.

Therefore the hardship we go thru life, can transform us to grow better and stronger.

I know my English is not that powderful but I hope you understand the story and meaning behind it. Last but not least, DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY!

Sunday, July 23, 2006

Picture Jwest Shoe

This is the shoe I bought at Parkson KLCC. Nice or not?!
This new brand sound like Nine West its from S'pore with Italian design. So far their range of shoes compared to Vincci are much more stylish and intersting. Quite a famous brand in S'pore especially in Takashimaya.

My Plant Part 2 :P

My plants have been growing wild lately...flowering like crazy. Lots of new babies popping out. Am glad that's it growing really well. I have another 3 small pots growing as well and they seem to be doing ok. Need more baja then they will grow up healthily. If you look closely those thingy at the edge are babies. Plus they have grown by many layers since I first got them.

Friday, July 21, 2006

Malaysia MEGA SALE Carnival

The Mega Sale Carnival started today. Mandy and I went to KLCC today. Isetan and Parkson member day sale. Spent quite some time at the Bobbi Brown counter. Coudn't decide what to buy but finally got it down. Hehehe got nice free gift cause I spent more than $350. A pouch, lip gloss, lipstick and face cream plus $40 dollars isetan voucher. Very tai man. So many things to see and buy. Everyone was going around like busy bees. Guess had 50% off on their bags and all the ladies were grabbing them all. One lady said better not buy, later all got the same bag only. Same goes for MNG clothes, now everyone is wearing the same boria man.

Next off to Parkson, was actually looking for a swavorski giraffe pendant. Damn nice man $205. Hint Hint if anyone wants to get me a birthday gift this would be nice :P Wanted to buy it but saw shoes from JWest and since it matches my Coach Peony bag. I had to get them shoes. Use me voucher that I got ended up with a real good bargain. I walked out with my new shoes and quite stylist I might add. It's been a while since I shopped for shoes. Vincci shoes not so nice this season, so haven't been buying any.

Next monday KLCC having a 3 hour mad rush. Over 90 stores will be participating and up to 80% off. I guess if you're free and have sometime in mind to buy then it will be worth your while to go check it out.

p.s will add picture of shoes tom...

Ok am tired from all that walking....let me know what you think of me shoe. :P

Monday, July 17, 2006

Summer Movies 2006

It's summer time and all the good movies are out. Saw two movies in 2 days back to back. "Superman Returns and Pirates of the Caribbean II" Interesting plot and story. I still think the old superman looks more handsome. The bad thing is I can hardly remember the old ones unless you're a real superman fan then you would know. The soundtrack to superman still rocks man. I really like that they kept the old stuff and make it new. As for me, I just enjoy watching movies but my HD can't really store so much info. Must go find the old ones and watch then the movie will make more sense. Same goes for the Pirates of the Caribbean. They seem to bring back lots of old characters from previous movie. Can't seem to remember them...whether they good, evil or what's their story. hehehehe getting old already memory also lacking already. Need new processor :P But overall I would give them both a 7 out of 10.

Last week saw Fast and Furious - Tokyo Drift. Story was ok lah, the only cool its the chicks and the cars. Hahahaha talking about CARS the Disney Pixar movie is Da Bomb man. Really love it!!! Hands down to Pixar for their creativity. I guess that's all from me. Over and out!

Friday, July 07, 2006

Jin Wei's Birthday Party

Happy Birthday Jin Wei

Ok no more sad stuff, happy happy stuff. Both Phil and I were invited to have dinner with his friend Kean Choon, wife Celyn and son Jin Wei. Kim Lee also join us for dinner. I thought it was a simple dinner but turns out to be a Birthday Party Dinner. Not surpirse to the birthday boy but to us. I feel really bad for not knowing and worst didn't buy him a gift. I like the toy that Quant Lynn bought the tiger torch light. Maybe I'll get it for him. I think he will definately like..rrrrrrrr

Here are some pictures taken of Jin Wei at his 3 years old birhtday party. He's such a cutie and charming little boy. Really enjoy playing with him.

My Uncle Albert Lee

Lately, the past few months has been quite upsetting and depressing. I didn't mean for it to happen that way but I just realize that I have been blogging a lot of death on my page. Can't help it as lately there's been quite a number of death in my family.

My uncle Albert Lee a great father, grandfather and uncle who has passed away on July 1st. I received a call from my Tai Yee while at the seminar that afternoon that he had just passed away. She was in shocked and didn't know what to do. Had informed both my mom and AJ. They left right away to help. He was supposed to join me and my downlines later that evening for our Shuang Hor Family Bowling Event. He really loves to bowl and every year at CNY we would all go bowling.

He's also a big Elvis Presley fan and loves to sing karaoke. We always call him "Mr. Safety" as he's always so cautious of things happening around him. Always reminding us to be all cautious too. Both my family and I will definitely miss him dearly. I could not attend his funeral as I was teaching at the UNHCR that morning. They choosed a really good day for him, July 4th (US Independence Day), easy to remember. May he rest in peace and may God be with you.